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About Deb Borges, Personal Responsibility Expert

I teach people to take personal responsibility for every experience in their lives. This allows us to leave the 'blame and complain train' and take our power back!

Workshop: Trusting Yourself to Be Successful–Personal Power

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If It’s Fun…Do It!

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Learn to follow your heart.

It will always keep you on the path of love and abundance, ease and simplicity, grace and gratitude.

If it’s Fun, do it.

If it isn’t, don’t.

Simple.

Powerful.

This may be a paradigm shifting concept for some of you. Only doing what’s fun.

Start small.

What feels more fun? Wearing the white shirt or the blue shirt? Having tea or coffee? Wearing my hair up or down? Ordering pizza or chinese? Cleaning the house now or later today?

These minor decisions that you make each day determine your attitude. Your attitude determines your experiences. Do you make choices based on you or on the anticipated opinions of other people? Do you fear being judged and criticized? If you are negotiating the minor decisions of your day with the fear of possible criticism…you will never have the self-esteem or self-confidence to make the major decisions that are in your best interest, that are alignment with your abundance.

Start small. Practice, Practice, Practice.

Get to know what it feels like to recognize Fun. Take the time to teach yourself, to remember what you knew when you were young. Fun was so important to us when we were young…do you remember that? It mattered. Think about some children you currently know and how devastated they are when they have to give up their Fun! They know how important it is to their well being and success!

Life is meant to be Fun. Joyful. Fulfilling. Amazing.

As you become more skilled and confident in only doing what’s fun, you will become clearer about your core values and who you really are. You will become immovable, unshakeable and very happy about being you.

Doing what’s Fun doesn’t mean not being responsible. Learning what is Fun with the small stuff will support you in making the big decisions that will keep you in alignment with your core values.

This is another step in creating Success on a foundation of Faith and Love. Learning to recognize the choices that support your core values is most definitely Fun!

Your Heart will guide you. If it feels ‘fun’, that is your Heart communicating with you–letting you know that you are making Heart based decisions.

Start small. Be light and easy about it. Have fun with it.

Have a blessed and abundant day!

Hugs and Love,

Deb Borges

“Make sure that everything and everyone you interact with today (whether in thought or in person) feels better for having spent time with you. Including You!”

Core Values…do you know yours?

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Are you immovable?

Do you stand in your body knowing what you will and will not allow, support, participate in, talk about, experience, and most importantly Believe?

Are you a chameleon? Do you reflect the people, places and things you are interacting with in order to make them feel comfortable around you? When the circumstances change do you modify who you are and change with them?

This is important. In order for you to receive the abundance and success that is your birthright…you have to know who you really are and OWN it!

Stop being everybody else. We do this because we are in fear. In fear of being who we really are because we fear the judgement and criticism.

Remember this: Nobody is thinking about you as much as you are. What other people think about you is none of your business. What you think about you creates your life!!

Step 1 in building Success on a solid, sustainable foundation:

Take your power back by taking full responsibility for every experience and result you have.

This is how you begin to know who you really are. You will get off the blame and complain train and stop being a victim by taking ownership of every moment of your Life. LIfe will stop being about them and start being about You! And that’s important because YOU are the centre of Your Universe. Your Life revolves around You, for You and because of You! You are going to become very clear about what matters most to you and you will never compromise or sabotage yourself for anyone else, ever again.

This is the beginning of determining your Core Values. Those beliefs that support you and move you in the direction of the Life you most desire. Once you become aware of those values/beliefs you will be empowered to nurture and protect them. That’s your job. Not your Mom’s or Dad’s, not your spouse’s, not your employer’s, not your best friend’s. Yours.

You be You. You are a Human Be-ing. Just Be You. It matters.

Life truly created you to be Unique. Your differentness is what we need. The rest of us are counting on you to be You because we are all connected. The better you are…the better we are.

Get to know your Core Values. If you aren’t sure where to begin…ask people you admire what theirs are. What would they never compromise? What has supported their well being and happiness? What are those values that they never defend or justify?

This is one of my most important Values–Living a Heart based life by thinking less and feeling more.

It’s not up for discussion. My radar is always checking to make sure that I’m in an environment that supports that core value. I will not compromise this. It absolutely brings me well being, happiness and a profound sense of safety. I own it like I own my name.

I’m immovable. I stand solidly in this belief. Rock Solid. And I Love the results that this commitment manifests!

It’s fun knowing who you really are!

Go for it. What could you gain by getting to know yourself?

Everything you’ve ever wanted. One marvellous day at a time! I highly recommend it!

(Next post…Tuesday, November 12/13)

Have a blessed and abundant day!

Hugs and Love,

Deb Borges

“Make sure that everyone and everything that you interact with today (whether in thought or in person) feels better for having spent time with you. Including YOU!”

My Life, My Way

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I’ve made a definite decision about what I will and will not allow to be part of my life.

It’s based on my core values. Those beliefs that I will not negotiate, that I will not violate, that I will not ignore, that I will not-under any circumstances-throw under the bus to make another person feel comfortable around me.

I am stepping ‘Out of the Box’ and living Life as My Life, My Way.

Why is it Out of the Box?

The dominant collective consciousness of society dictates that we live It’s way, not our own UNIQUE way.

What I’ve heard from society: ‘This is the only way I know how to guide you, teach you, show you, etc and if you don’t do it my way and aren’t achieving success….don’t ask me for help, don’t complain, don’t wonder what your problem is. You’re on your own.’

Basically that message from Society, as I interpret it, is this: I (society and those who represent it) have achieved my success with a tremendous amount of stress, strain, effort and pain. If I did it, you can and SHOULD do it too! I am handling my misery and still succeeding. Get a grip on yours, stuff it out of sight and get on with it!! Life is messy and often miserable. Accept it and become successful anyway (in whatever area you want to achieve success in)–even ‘Happiness’. Successful people are those of us who are actively ignoring our pain and forging ahead. Get it? Success is built on the foundation of misery! Get over it! Figure it out already! Pretend you aren’t miserable. And just do it.

Enticing?

Not to me. Not anymore.

I quit.

Truthfully, I barely got started!

It has taken me almost 50 years to get clear about why I’m not all that interested in ‘putting myself’ out there and creating the phenomenal success that I know in my heart is my birthright. Success built on misery????? How can that be stable? Anyone who has any experience with buildings knows that a successful building depends on a strong, stable foundation. My experience of misery leaves me weak, vulnerable, somewhat depressed, unhappy, ill, and ready to crumble at any moment. How in the world am I supposed to uphold and hold up Success on that?

I’ve dedicated the last 12 years of my life to discovering who I really am and determining what to do about it.

And I am passionate about helping you and everyone you know (and don’t know) in doing the same.

I am not wired for building my successful Life on a foundation of misery. And I am no longer open to ‘being wired’ to do that. It has caused me more confusion and chaos than I am even aware of!!

All those years I’d been wondering, “Maybe I’m just not wired for phenomenal success…”

Turns out that I most definitely AM wired for phenomenal success. I AM created in the image and likeness of God. Pretty sure God is all powerful, all mighty, omnipresent, and amazing!! OK then! I’ve got that covered!

I am not wired for misery. It doesn’t feel natural. It certainly doesn’t feel all powerful and all mighty.

I am wired for Love. God is Love. Therefore I AM Love.

Society, the collective mindset of Society that is, is on auto pilot. It’s a habit. Most people aren’t even aware that they are living with this paradigm. They believe they have the system figured out. And they do….for Success built on Misery. They are not aware that it can be different and they don’t support different. Stay in the box.

I’m recommending that you get out of the box if it doesn’t feel like you.

How do you do that?

Find out who you really are. It’s happening for more people everyday…and society is beginning to grow and evolve…as more of us stand in our own power and empower others to do the same. Each of us living our lives Our Way is the foundation of a healthy society. We are then able to support more people in becoming who they were born to be and we all win!

Our uniqueness supported by our connectedness. That’s co-creation at its best.

Check in on my next post on November 4/13 and I’ll share some insights with you!

Have a blessed and abundant day.

Hugs and Love,

Deb